Friday, 3 August 2012

Dear Future Husband.....

Dear Future Husband.....
 Below are the thoughts and a letter, I write to my future husband. I have not met my hubby as yet I think so!!! I can’t take credit for the concept, I saw it from another blog and liked it and stole the idea #hides#. I have added quite a are some below:

My future husband,
I can’t wait to meet you. Some days, I grow so impatient and lonely as the days stretch out before me without you by my side. Other days, I’m happy with where I am, happy and preparing the best of me before we meet.

But today, specifically, I want to talk about me. About this woman you’re going to marry. Because I’ve lived for most of my thirty-one years thinking I would never feel worthy of your love, thinking there would never be a guy out there who would deem me so incredible, that he would want to spend the rest of his life with me.
But gosh darnit, there is. You are him. My stomach releases a flurry of butterflies every time I think about you, about our wedding day, about our married life, and raising our kids.

Today, as I write to you, I am 31 years old. I am a graduate, and applying myself to my job, am passionate about reading and writing. I love nature and life, am quite when I need be, I am strong, loving, caring, passionate, full of love, am also fragile, and weak, tears roll down my eyes, when I am both happy and sad. I have established my independence in small ways that will lead to bigger changes.

I love reading and it was reason for embarrassment growing up. Other girls liked having sleepovers and long chats on the phone. I liked curling up with a good book and using my Saturday mornings as my time to peruse the tall stacks of books at the library, selecting the best ones for me. I always thought my love for reading would diminish as I grew and developed other hobbies, but it hasn’t. Instead, this love burns the deepest in me and I don’t think it will ever be extinguished.

I’m most content when I am comfortable with myself: with what I’m wearing, with how I’m acting, with who I am with. I’m not the girl that needs to be dressed to the nines every single day, although it’s always nice to dress up when the occasion calls for it. And I’m not the girl who constantly needs to be surrounded by people. I’m the girl who will sit by your side during a football game, yelling and cheering at the top of my lungs. I’m the girl who loves food and eating, even if it does mean I’ll never be model-thin. I’m the girl who cherishes long talks and the silence. The girl who loves to laugh and uses sarcasm as a second language.

I’m non-confrontational and generally shy away from arguments. I’m working on it, because it means sometimes I let people walk all over me. I’m learning to stand up for myself and the people I love.

I’m still very shy when talking to the opposite sex, as evidenced by my “talks” with the man I labeled “MR T”. It’s hard for me to open up to strangers and even harder when said stranger is cute. This means I have no idea how we’ll meet, what your first impression of me will be, and that I’m constantly worried I’m going to screw up our happy ending.

I know I have a lot of work to do on me. On not shutting down and remaining quiet when things bug me. On going after what I want, full speed ahead. On understanding where my passions lie. On establishing independence. On becoming the best wife to you as I can possibly be.

At 31, I have a lot of growth to do, a lot of life left to discover. Some days, I wish you were by my side and we were going through these things together. But ultimately, I know this is what is best. I’m content with myself for now, because I know it’s not forever.
I can’t wait to meet you.

Your future wife, JM
Dear future husband, you are my favourite person. Your future wife, JM
 Dear Future Husband: I'm not ready for you; my Maker is still moulding me to be your chosen wife and helper. Allow Him to do His work on you too. We both deserve refined and tested material. I love you.
 Dear Future Husband: I trust you have a bible, otherwise how will you lead without knowledge??? Your future wife, JM

Dear Future Husband: I strongly believe that a man must set the tone and pace for a courtship and thereafter a marriage. I don’t operate with subtle hints. I will not hint back either. I will not ask you out; I will not propose to you, I will not fork out my savings to help you pay lobola. You are the man here, set the tone, make a plan and I will comply. Your future wife, JM - *respecting the natural order*
Dear Future Husband: with ALL due respect, I'm not your mother. Its not my place to nag/shout at/discipline or mother you. I trust you've graduated from being a boy and have earned the right be called a man, to be precise MY man. Your future wife (in good standing) JM
Dear Future Husband; when you have a bit of flu - I’m the type to take the day off, feed you,make sure the family Dr to comes to YOU, make soup and curry for you, ginger tea, fluff your pillows, read the instruction leaflet of your meds and spoil you to health. Trust you can handle that, it’s in my nature, its love, not mothering. Your future wife, JM
Dear Future Husband; yes we'll wake up in the same bed, have breakfast together etc, but it’s important to me that (no matter how busy we are) that we both remember to touch base at least once a day. Phonecall /sms'nyana. 'how's yo day? /what's for lunch/hey sexy' 10 sec nje. Call it midday foreplay#wink#. Your future wife, JM
Dear Future hubby: I've taken myself out for dinner and movies. Ate alone and paid my bill. Got myself the movie combo 4 (popcorn, juice & wine gums). Feel free to come and take over, anytime!!! Your future wife, JM 
Dear Future Husband : We both have history, and when we start our future, let our histories stay in the past Your future Wife, JM